Saturday, June 23, 2012

Is Age the new Race?

As I get further and further down the road of life, not only do I have more and more doctors (granted most are elective), but I also have less and less to talk about with people under the age of 22.  My witty reference points and ism’s are lost on the youth of today.  Apparently there was a major loss of pop culture in 1989, since everyone born after that has none. 

No longer can I say “We’re moving on up like George and “Weezy”.  I can no longer put my hand up mid conversation and blurt “Talk to the hand!” And forget passing around mix Cd’s of my “Best of” collection of 90’s Vag Rock, because no one under 22 knows who the freak Alanis Morissette is.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m fine with being ancient, it was something I always embraced, but what I’m left wondering is... is age the new race?

Let’s take Madonna for starters.  Madonna has been famous for being crude, lewd, provocative and shocking people with her body and live shows, it’s what got her press in the 80’s and it’s what gets her press in 2012.  So why do we say she should act her age?  She’s Madonna it’s what she does.  Granted I’m not her biggest fan, but I mean really?

Where is it written that at some point you have to stop being yourself just because you hit a certain number on a chart.  If a 22 year old lady of a certain caliber can flash her boobs to the masses, what is all the fuss about a 50 year old lady of the same caliber doing the same thing?  This is extremely alarming in the gay community, a community that’s been told to be “straight” for centuries and bucked against the notion.  If we tell people what their actions should be for a certain age, how can anyone get mad with they tell us how to act for a certain gender? Are “old” people the true last minority?

Sunday, December 25, 2011

New Day Dawning!

Happy 2012 (almost) all my LOVED ones and what a YEAR this
has been eh? I’m writing my year end “wrap
up” after being inspired for years by a friend of mine who has a friend that
ALWAYS sends a similar letter each year. I though it was such a lovely notion
thus I’m starting my own tradition.

So what was new this year? Well THIS year has been full of growth
and enlightenment that at sometimes has been overwhelming, but nonetheless a
necessity in this physical experience we call LIFE.

The year started out with having to say goodbye to WONDERFUL
soul mates that had to move away on their path, teaching me the lesson of
loving from afar, and it continued with learning how to be able to release
people and projects as God ended old things to made way for new ones.

Sometimes I believe we get so attached to our
comfort zones and the people and things in it, that we hold on for dear life
and in doing so perhaps delay things our Creator may want for us.
This year, the main theme seemed to have been SIMPLIFY!

With the economy, change in the climate of artistic expression
and general demeanor of society, I was given the opportunity
to focus on the blessings and miracles we (as a society) have begun to take for

There are so many things that we truly don’t need, and so many things
we do need we forget we actually couldn’t do without.
For instance, I have a body that functions properly (for the most part…LOL).

I did not go hungry this year.
I can see and hear all the beauty this world has to offer.
I have shelter to come home to every night and most all I have
WONDERFUL people that LOVE and CARE for me and my well-being.

As I keep on the road of aligning my spiritual self with my physical self, I have been so thankful to God for a SUPPORTIVE family and AMAZING friends that uplift and support me LOVINGLY and GENUINELY and that is (to quote MasterCard)….. PRICELESS.

I think as a human race we are getting much closer to how we will live in the
life after this, (sorry all my non-believer friends you should have KNOWN it
was coming at some point… LOL) a life without judgment, without the physical,
without gender, without human limitations and only LOVE in one accord.

I/We head into 2012 with such potential and possibility that just to think of
it is WONDEROUS and MAGNIFICENT and I hope all of that WONDER finds its way to
you. If nothing else, I wish for you in the coming year(s), it’s to keep with you
that every moment is PRECIOUS and FLEETING and that as long as you are willing your path will be shown to you….. ALWAYS.

God Bless and PEACE and LOVE always be in your HEART.

Thursday, January 13, 2011

Two Words.....

Ughh.. Okay.. So how many times.. does it happen.. we’ve all be there.. I mean we are in Starbucks.. they call out our order..

“…Lightly Squeezed, High Pulp, Low Fat Orange Juice with a hint of mint for…… Sissy Debut..”

And then WHAM..

People just STAMPEDE over to my table.. wanting pictures, hugs and to poke and prod around my body.. !!!

All this is FINE with me... because you don’t walk around looking like a Tranny all the time without expecting people to look….. and small children to ask their parents.. “Mommie why is she SO tall..” to which I kindly bend down and smile to say..

“Because she LOVES Jimmy Choo…… and she’s Big Bird’s cousin”..

God I LOVE children.. (really I do.. they are SOOO honest)

But anywho.. back to me..

People ask for advice.. they want tips… information. They want to know what to do, how to make it, how to make their lives as WONDERFUL as mine.

And for them I have 2 words..


You need friends! And you need the kind that are SUPPORTIVE, TALENTED, FUNNY, INSPIRING, BOLD, BRAVE and even CONNECTED..

The old saying “you are only as strong as the people you surround yourself with” is an OLD SAYING for a reason.. because it’s TRUE..

So if you are trying to succeed at ANYTHING.. take a look at who you’ve got around you.. are they lifting you up or are they bringing ya down…??

Most of my DEAREST and CLOSETS friends also double as Dress Makers, Photographers, Producers, Session Players, Make Up Artists and just general INSPIRATION… and they were friends first.. their talents just happened to be a SCORE!!! And I would do ANYTHING and EVERYTHING for them and them for I (and we have)… and I foster those relationships RELIGIOUSLY..

So REALLY think about the people you allow in your circle … REALLY try to incorporate new and affirming people into your life and NUTURE those connections.. before you know it.. you will have a team of peeps that can have you ready for the red carpet in less than 10 minutes. You’ll have peeps that will not only TELL you, you’ve got nasal projection visible… but the BEYATCHES will reach up there and get that mess OUT for you!!!..



Sissy Debut

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Know Fear???

I think the biggest fear in life is being made a FOOL OUT OF….by either yourself or OTHERS… I mean really when you think about the things in life, that you really want to do… what are the biggest reasons you don’t do them???

You are afraid to be made a FOOL OUT OF!!!!!

Why don’t middle age men walk around in thongs, when secretly they’d give anything to know how a warm summer breeze feels on their ball sack..???

Cause they are afraid people will think of them as FOOLS…

And why don’t middle age women by that sexy dress they want in the Victoria’s Secret catalog?? Just because it shows their caterpillar rolls??

Cause people will think of them as FOOLS!!!

I mean hell just cause people can’t see those rolls in that Martha Stewart sheet set she’s going to be wearing (you know what I’m talking about.. it looks like you just cut a hole in a twin sheet and stuck your head through it) don’t mean they ain’t there.

So I say FLAUNT it honey.. wear those rolls like a girl scout badge of honor.. screw what people think..

When I walk out the door in the morning.. ALL I’m THINKING????

Is “it’s a damn shame I can’t charge people #4.99 a minute to look my way..”

Cause I KNOW I look good.. PHAT or FAT …BLOATED or HAUTED!!!

But I’m just thankful that I had the best role model growing up, who taught me how to be fearless and proud of what made me happy… My GRANDMOTHER…

She would spend all day Saturday in her rollers and housecoat and drive all over town, while people POINTED and STARED… but she did she care..HELL NO..

She didn’t care because she was FEARLESS… !!!

Now GRANTED some people would say it was because she was CRAZY (having 10 kids can do that do ya)…. And SOME people would say it was a chemical imbalance because our family tree merged together one too many times.. but never the less she didn’t care what ANYBODY thought and she was HAPPY!!

I remember on Sunday morning.. people would GASP because she’d break a twenty in the offering plate.. but she didn’t care… she’d just say “Look I gave my husband my muffin, my work my time, my children my life… all I’ve got left for God is a FIVE dollar bill…”.. and then quickly tuck the change in her bra…

And it was little moments like that, which have helped me to RISE beyond the fear and pretense of societical boundaries and take the cow by the horns and just give em’ hell…

Cause honey this ride only goes around ONCE, you got to work it while you can..

So the next time you are backing down from something.. ask yourself WHY???

Are you afraid of it… ??

Do you think you aren’t worth it..??

Is someone making you feel inferior?

If so you just say FUDUCK it and do it any how.. if you fall on your face SO WHAT.. at least it will give you a conversation piece to talk to your friends about..


Sissy Debut…

Monday, September 13, 2010

Re-wind. Re-visit. Re-store

So today was a rough day as I dealt with the uncertainty of life and the loss of a light in the world.. but my angel (whom is FAMOUS for antics such as this).. dragged me out of bed.. and smacked the phrase that "if you WANT to sit out in your life.. God will provide your ass with a SEAT".. against my train of thought.. I took this saying to mean if you want to just be idle.. the universe will more than oblige..

I do not wish to be idle.. I wish to make a difference in the world.. I WISH to help those who need it.. LOVE those that need loved.. and humor those we need to LAUGH..

So I made a list of all the things I am BLESSED with..

Loved Ones
and the list got exceedingly longer as the day progressed... Laughter, The Sun, Cool Breeze.. living in LA.. etc. etc.

So with all this taken into account I realize no matter where we are or what we are facing.. if we take stock of what we already have.. it gives us a better perspective on what we have to face... that and a 90 minute hike does WONDERS for your spirit... :-)

Sunday, September 12, 2010

Reality Check..

Okay so I never SAID I was a great blogger.. these words never passed my lips.. and tomorrow will be TWO MONTHS exactly that I've posted a blog..and that is because.. of two things..
#1.. NO ONE was following/reading my blog.. LOL..
and more importantly #2 I've been a busy heffer.. !!! OKAY!!!
In the past two months
**I've landed a WONDERFUL manger who is AMAZING.. and an inspiration to be associated with..
** Produced shows
** Filmed for a webisode I'll be co-starring in
** Done photo shoots..
** Updated websites..
** Landed gigs for this year and next..
** Written TWO albums
** Designed clothes (look for a fashion line from yours truly next year)
** Had breakdowns and Breakthroughs..
** Renovated my living space.. and the list goes on and on..
And that's life.. but now that I have a home office up and running I'm going to in true Eat.Pray.Love try to share more with the blogging world..
But sadly I am reminded.. that NONE of these things really matter in the end.. Life is short and PRECIOUS.. and the moments we spend worrying about petty things or just non-life affirming things are fruitless.. as I received the news tonight that a friend of mine from the East Coast passed away suddenly..
So as I was spending my Sunday night feeling sorry for myself and down and out over my current lack of STARDOM and Dwindling BANK ACCOUNT.. someone was losing a child/partner/loved one.. and that not only makes me feel ashamed of myself.. but also reconnects me with how humble we should be and how EVERY moment in life is truly a thing to cherish.. you never know when it's yours or someone else you Love's last...
So as I remember my friend who was a true source of LIGHT in this world.. I try to celebrate not only the life he lived but also the gift of life we have ALL been given.. and all to often take for granted.. So take a deep breath and just thank our creator for the now!!! Fortune or Fame or NOT...

Monday, July 12, 2010


Okay.. so I KNOW I KNOW it's been a while.. but look having to resurrect your SUPER Stardom on a shoe string budget takes WORK!!!

Whoa... :-)

But three weeks into this thing and WHOA.. I've played some pretty amazing GIGS.. with a lot of other stuff in the works.. So hang tight.. things are about to get "pretty interesting..